Uncounted Preparations of Father

He started his journey of life ages ago. He started as a son then a man; but after so long years he can actually feel how his Father felt when he was born. As he knows someone very soon is coming to call him "DADDY".

"DADDY" the word itself isn't easy, it actually needs a lot of preparations. Soon he is going to be a father which means raising his child into respectable adults; by protecting and preserving them as their real life superhero. To own the title for the superhero/ super-hunk/ daddy he starts to prepare himself from the very little things. But somewhere nobody notices or realises his preparations for being a father.

From he all the preparations and check-ups from the very beginning  pregnancy cycle for a to be father; his feelings somewhere never counted. People say it's her pregnancy cycle but he can only feel it's theirs'. His feelings as "to be father" is excluded from the celebrations and preparations. Even though, he holds all his feeling in him. Most often fathers’ feelings and experiences in respective of pregnancy and childbirth is excluded: because people pre-assume only the mother is there during the pregnancy. Yet, he was also there from the very first day when he heard their child has started it's life in her. As a Father he went through a strong mixed feeling while striving to become prepared and to participate during pregnancy and childbirth, which was actually very difficult and it needed a lot of hard work for him which nobody can even count or explain...

During all the preparations he sharply knows that He has an important part to play during pregnancy and childbirth and even after that. He realizes his roles and responsibilities that needs to be supported by helping his better-half physically or strengthening her mentally; as responsible, caring and loving parents. He even knows the sensitivity that needs to be highlighted as a great commitment and a wish to participate during parenting as a Father.

As a father, he has that strong feelings during the pregnancy, and expecting a baby becomes primary focus in his life.  To him, becoming a father means great joy, excitement and expectations, and a strong longing for the baby. And this feeling to him is honestly  the greatest moment of his life.

After a long Patience then comes the childbirth, where he fails to explain that   strong but mixed feelings. To him, it particularly is very difficult to put those strong feelings circulating through his body into words. Witnessing the birth of his child turned into a fantastic, joyful experience. Therefore, he fails to phrase or explain his feelings into any words. To him this particular moment with his little baby is one of the dream that came true; which he finds both unreal and unique.

And this particular unique and unreal feeling he experienced was never the patriarchy! His feelings are the unexplained realities of fatherhood that none the father could literally phrase or explain in terms of words. His preparations to become a father was one of the real hard test to him. Where, the precious sucessive result  he received was the product of his love and commitments with his better-half as 'their newly born child.'

When Motivators Forget To Motivate

"Motivation" word comes from the word ’motive’ which means needs, desires, wants or drives within the individuals. While the word itself is the term that pushes an individual to accomplish ones needs, desires, wants or drives on their own. Motivation is one of the most positive word that in 21st century world talks and discusses about. From your baby step to the old-age several motivation and motivational speeches, lectures and stories.

But in the row of motivational speaker who try to motivate the 2nd or the 3rd person next to him/her, somewhere still don't understand the definition and need of the word motivation... sometimes when people more focus onto motivational speeches or articles completely forget to motivate others in terms of action. Yes, in regards of the speeches and the selection of the flawless word to the listeners were actually very motivating; but same speaker on motivation sometimes lacks to implement the motivational factor interms of action. Yes! The trigger is one to those who talks a loud about motivation and progress and success while the underlying truth is they never put their words of motivation into their actions.

Hundreds and times they shout-out that motivating everyone is their purpose still they forget; they forget that only the big dreams and big words that they have pressed through their lectures and speeches ain't enough to motivate others.  Sometimes people complain that they are not working as a team because they lack a motivation to work as a team. They highlight motivation as their need yet cannot figure out; how can they actually reflect the need of motivation into reflection? One easy way was to input every little things in appreciation and value everyone's performance as a team. But where the Motivator failed was; one started pointing out the flaws of the individuals in the team that always hindered the team members to come up with an idea. Yes! A valuable good speech to the team could be provided for motivating the team but on the other hand pointing out the individual flaws in the team members can definitely obstruct on the team performance.

So therefore sometimes the way you start to motivate others either with counseling or with action can differ the idea of motivation and motivating others. Likewise, Motivators might even fail to motivate due to circumstances and instances...

Simply, you!!!

I only have one importance left in this life; and it's You. Only, you!

One importance; no doubt baby, it's you..Simply, you!

Treasuring you within my heart; where my happiness come along you!

Oh! Love, there shall I need you! I seek you!!!

Mine heart when meets yours comes onto life;

The particular moment my heart actually beats for me.

My heart when it feels yours; makes me beautiful, the way I never felt before!

On notes, when my heart fell for you; 

I lost myself from me, as I couldn't neither stop nor control myself from loving you...

Now it beats next to you, for you and because of you.

Yes, You! Simply, you!!!

Smiling! I can't help this feeling because I  now have reason to celebrate my living.

Dreaming! Is now limitless as it never happened more fantasizing before I met you..

Living! Actually is now the luxury as my charming shades as soulful love of yours is with me... 

While every on and off mood swings I go through is now a fun...
Only and only because of you! Simply, you!!!

Weak stories

Every individual hold a story in him or her. While the point is what is the value of that particular story of him/her. On one hand some story highlight the importance of living, life, success, bravery, motivation and inspiration... Overall these success story which reflects how life has positive sides of living, the positive ways that makes everyone behind

Goosebumps

Goosebumps

Life sometimes unwillingly decides its own journey. There are hundred and tons of planning we make in our present so that we can have a settled and sustained future. But life barely runs on the planned track. So was my this journey. Before heading to Surkhet, Nepal several plans were listed from shopping to get together; yet nothing worked as planned. Several idea in my mind that I would do this shorts of activity to support quality education. But

The Unspoken Feeling

The Unspoken Feeling

I feel like my heart has grown much more impatient since I met you. I feel as if I won’t be able to survive. Without you my life will go towards the shade. And my heart goes impatient, too impatient after you.

These eyes want to see you all day long. It is scared to lose you even in the blinks I take. So it scans you all the time around me. It has grown that selfish. I wish to have you close to me all the time. Even I wish you for the nights if there weren’t any of these barriers. I have started thinking about you for all night and keep smiling like an idiot. I even imagine of the romantic illusions between you and I. I want to admire you all the time. I just wish if I could play with your hair, I wish to cuddle you all night. Applying nail polish to your nails and tight hugs would be my best.

Every time a romantic song goes around, I wish if we two could spend hours arm by arm. I want to sing for you despite I have a worst tone, dance with you. Take you out for a long vacation. If only goodbyes weren’t there.  Dropping you to your place, where I childishly ask you to hug me… and a sweet kiss… Seems like I will lose my way without you.

Life would have grown really smooth but it’s me who cannot dare to express my feelings to you. I am scared you would turn your face away from me. Every day I came up with plan to express what I actually feel for you but I cannot make my words right to you. This non-expressive nature of me hurts. I feel like I am able to inhale these pains. I am satisfied with this pain, also. Even in the hard times I feel to smile, smile enough to think that I will pave my way out of it. I am scared that i might loose you and the feeling haunts me...

Do I Love You??

Do I Love You???

Actually it's not really difficult to write about love. I've seen couples saying the same thing over and over for so many years. So I feel; it depends on how honest it is and how good one make themselves up to other. You can say 'I love you' in a trillion ways, and it can always sound different or feel different.

But today I realized it's not easy to sit down and open yourself up and say, 'This is how much I love you or something.’ Gosh! This crap is much more difficult, you know? It's scary to do that. It’s even scary when you excitedly plan a date and when you are onto it becomes difficult for you to open up. So far in this world I was not dying to hear you say, 'I love you. Or I love you, too' But I do think that if we leave this legacy of love and passion in the world, then I think we've done our job in a world that's getting colder and colder by the day. But life would turn out to be a regret if I don’t share you of those feelings too. Yes! It would be the regret of my life that I had not said 'I love you' for today, tomorrow or often enough.

Well, well there is no stress on or about dating necessarily but even though the excitements and anticipations and new feelings could be a bit overwhelming and making relationships’ filled with stress and all. Sticking with a wrong fellow could also be a nightmare when it comes to a relationship.

Hmm, I realized; to say 'I love you' one must first be able to say the 'I'. Therefore I will be looking forward to be the I in every twists and turns. Expecting you to be “You” at all the destinations we plan for.