He started his journey of life ages ago. He started as a son then a man; but after so long years he can actually feel how his Father felt when he was born. As he knows someone very soon is coming to call him "DADDY".
"DADDY" the word itself isn't easy, it actually needs a lot of preparations. Soon he is going to be a father which means raising his child into respectable adults; by protecting and preserving them as their real life superhero. To own the title for the superhero/ super-hunk/ daddy he starts to prepare himself from the very little things. But somewhere nobody notices or realises his preparations for being a father.
From he all the preparations and check-ups from the very beginning pregnancy cycle for a to be father; his feelings somewhere never counted. People say it's her pregnancy cycle but he can only feel it's theirs'. His feelings as "to be father" is excluded from the celebrations and preparations. Even though, he holds all his feeling in him. Most often fathers’ feelings and experiences in respective of pregnancy and childbirth is excluded: because people pre-assume only the mother is there during the pregnancy. Yet, he was also there from the very first day when he heard their child has started it's life in her. As a Father he went through a strong mixed feeling while striving to become prepared and to participate during pregnancy and childbirth, which was actually very difficult and it needed a lot of hard work for him which nobody can even count or explain...
During all the preparations he sharply knows that He has an important part to play during pregnancy and childbirth and even after that. He realizes his roles and responsibilities that needs to be supported by helping his better-half physically or strengthening her mentally; as responsible, caring and loving parents. He even knows the sensitivity that needs to be highlighted as a great commitment and a wish to participate during parenting as a Father.
As a father, he has that strong feelings during the pregnancy, and expecting a baby becomes primary focus in his life. To him, becoming a father means great joy, excitement and expectations, and a strong longing for the baby. And this feeling to him is honestly the greatest moment of his life.
After a long Patience then comes the childbirth, where he fails to explain that strong but mixed feelings. To him, it particularly is very difficult to put those strong feelings circulating through his body into words. Witnessing the birth of his child turned into a fantastic, joyful experience. Therefore, he fails to phrase or explain his feelings into any words. To him this particular moment with his little baby is one of the dream that came true; which he finds both unreal and unique.
And this particular unique and unreal feeling he experienced was never the patriarchy! His feelings are the unexplained realities of fatherhood that none the father could literally phrase or explain in terms of words. His preparations to become a father was one of the real hard test to him. Where, the precious sucessive result he received was the product of his love and commitments with his better-half as 'their newly born child.'
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